Kids With Anxiety

Anxiety Disorders That Plague Children

If you have a child, you might be concerned that their attitude or behavior is a sign of an anxiety disorder. Anxiety is actually extremely common, including in young children and teens.

Here are some anxiety disorders your child may be suffering from.

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Generalized Anxiety Disorder

The first type of anxiety disorder your child might have is called generalized anxiety disorder (GAD). This is one of the most common forms of anxiety for children, teens, and adults.

It is a type of constant worry or anxiousness not always brought on by something. Some kids have specific triggers, but others just feel the worry at random times.

It can really affect their lives, from making it hard to make friends, to affecting their schoolwork. It is not uncommon for children with GAD to become obsessed with perfection, so that is a good sign to look for.

Panic Disorder

Panic disorder can occur on its own or combined with other forms of anxiety, like GAD. With panic disorder, your child not only has anxiety, but they are prone to panic attacks.

These can be brutal for many people, and something children and adults can both experience. Panic attacks don’t last long, but they are often linked to feeling like you are going crazy or are having a heart attack. Some common symptoms of panic attacks include:

• Sweaty hands and increased temperature
• Mild confusion
• Tunnel vision
• Racing heart
• Feeling ‘out of it.’
• Social Anxiety

With social anxiety, your child probably only has anxiety or panic attacks when in a social situation. This can vary in severity, from not being able to talk to anyone other than their parents or siblings, to only having issues in large crowds.

Your child might prefer sitting in the back of the classroom where they feel they aren’t on display, or sit alone in the playground, but do just fine one-on-one with their friends or cousins.

Separation Anxiety

It is also not uncommon for kids to have separation anxiety, even as they get older. This occurs when your child has significant anxiety or panic attacks when you leave them alone with a sitter, or even when they are going to school or church when you won’t be in the room.

Separation anxiety has a variety of treatments, so it is best to talk to a therapist about how to help your child overcome it. Of course, there are also many other anxiety disorders your child could have, from specific phobias like hypochondria to PTSD following a traumatic event. Talk to a mental health professional for more info.

How to Calm an Anxious Child

When you have a child that struggles with anxiety and panic disorder, it can be frustrating not knowing how to help them. Luckily, there are a few techniques you can try out.

Here are some different ways to calm an anxious child without just telling them to relax.

Have Them Write Out the Problem

For many kids, the anxiety isn’t just general like from GAD, but is actually linked to something specific. Perhaps they have an oral presentation at school they are afraid of doing, or they are having a panic over separation anxiety as you have a trip coming up soon.

When your child is feeling anxious, no matter what is causing it, give them a journal and have them write out what they are feeling. They can write about anything and keep it private, with you making a promise you will only read it if they want you to. Just the act of writing it down can be a massive help for kids with anxiety.

Give Them Activities to Distract Them

In other cases, kids do best when they don’t have to think about what is making them anxious, particularly when they have a panic attack. This is when toys and activities come in handy.

Don’t just put them in front of a television, as that is often the wrong form of stimulation to get out of a panic attack. Instead, get them some different sensory activities using various colors and textures, try to fidget toys, or give them crafts and art supplies.

Learn Deep Breathing Exercises

Breathing exercises are recommended to most people with anxiety and panic disorder, including children and teens. You can work with your child to learn breathing exercises and do them together.

Deep breathing is so healing and is a natural way to help reduce overall anxiety and help with various panic attacks. Whether your child has a specific phobia, generalized anxiety, panic disorder, or separation anxiety, these breathing exercises can help tremendously.

Reward Their Bravery and Courage

While you don’t want to punish your child for being too anxious or worrying too much, it is okay to reward them when they are brave and courageous. Even children with anxiety can overcome it and try really hard to put themselves out there and try new things, also when they are scared to do so. It is good to encourage this type of behavior.

What to Put in a Calm Box

A calm box is a type of box that includes different items for kids with anxiety. Some calm boxes are catered to certain anxiety disorders, like items that make a child with anger issues settle down their mind, while other boxes include different colors and textures for kids with sensory issues.

The following information provides some general items you can put into a calming box for different forms of anxiety in children.

Something Soft and Cuddly

The first thing you should include in a calm box for kids with anxiety is something soft and cuddly that they can hold onto. This is good for kids who are having a panic attack or whose anxiety is helped by holding onto something.

If your child usually goes for their favorite pillow or stuffed animal in bed when they are worried or anxious about something, it is a good sign that this is an item to help them calm down. You can even bring them to the store with you to pick out their favorite stuffed animal.

Creative Activities

Many children do well when they can distract their minds from what is giving them anxiety, so include some activities in the calm box. This might be coloring books and crayons or colored pencils, a sketchbook with pencils, or other activities like a jewelry making kit or clay to make mold objects.

There are a lot of different toys and activities you can buy or put together that will give your child something to do that expresses their creative nature, while also providing anxiety relief.

Fidget Toys

Fidget toys are useful for many kids with anxiety as well. These are another way to keep your child’s focus on something else. The fidget toys might have textures that are good for kids with sensory issues, like balls of slime, while others just keep them occupied like finger squeezers or stress balls.

Then there are items like funky pencil toppers with bright colors, but also that can be moved around when they want to fidget with something.

Various Colors and Textures

In addition to the fidget toys, you might want to put other items that have multiple colors and textures. This will depend on the age of your child and what they are most interested in.

Just think of items they can use, figure out, or play with that will give them more textures and bright colors to bring them away from what is giving them anxiety and focus on their other senses.

Helping Kids With Social Anxiety

One of the more common forms of anxiety in children is social anxiety. This typically occurs when your child struggles to deal with social interactions, whether that is with people they know or not.

This can make it hard for them to make friends and can follow them as they get older as well. Here are some tips for helping kids who have social anxiety.

Know the Warning Signs

Before you can help your child with their social anxiety, you need to know if this is actually what they have. It is possible they are just introverted, where they prefer being alone in their thoughts, but don’t necessarily have an anxiety disorder.

So here are some common signs of a child with social anxiety:

• They have been withdrawing from activities
• It is hard for them to make friends
• They have become uncomfortable talking to teachers
• Your child avoids eye contact or fidgets a lot when talking to someone
• They have trouble communicating even at gatherings with friends or family

If any of these sound familiar, your child might be struggling with social anxiety. Though you may want to talk to a counselor or child psychiatrist since in many cases, shyness can be confused with actual social anxiety. They are often handled very differently.

Don’t Push Them Too Much

Once you know that your child has social anxiety, you can slowly start helping them work through it. The first thing to keep in mind is that you don’t want to push them too much.

This is really important because just forcing them to interact with different people often makes the anxiety worse, not better. You don’t want them to avoid social situations forever, but to ease them into it gracefully.

Have open communication with your child to discuss what they are struggling with and see if you can come up with a compromise they are comfortable with, but that leads them in the direction of dealing with their social anxiety.

Encourage One-on-One Activities

An excellent way to slowly help them face their fears and deal with social anxiety is to put them with someone else one-by-one. They might not feel comfortable speaking to someone in a group of people, but perhaps you can set up play dates with just one other child. Many children (and adults) with social anxiety do okay in smaller groups of people as opposed to parties.

Yoga For Anxiety in Kids

An excellent way to help a child with anxiety is to have them do yoga. Yoga is becoming very popular for kids and teens because of all the many benefits it provides.

Not only, there are a lot of important physical benefits, but emotional and mental ones as well. Kids with anxiety will find that they can relax more often and even avoid major anxiety attacks by doing yoga on a regular basis.

Breathing Exercises Relieve Anxiety

Through yoga, your child is going to learn how to focus on their breathing. These breathing exercises are not only important during each yoga pose, but they can be extremely efficient in helping with panic attacks and other forms of anxiety.

Breathing exercises are one of the top remedies for a panic attack, so if your child has a generalized anxiety disorder or panic disorder, learning the breathing exercises has many benefits.

The Exercise Itself is Soothing

Yoga is a very relaxing exercise that is working on strengthening the body and improving flexibility, while also providing a soothing environment. Whether you do yoga with your kids in the living room or bring them to a family-friendly beginner yoga class, it will be a good activity for the entire family.

Just make sure you choose yoga classes with moves that are good for kids to do, such as with Hatha Yoga, which is ideal for beginners.

Yoga Improves Kids’ Self Esteem

When your kids start doing yoga, they will also gain confidence and improve their own self-esteem. They know they are getting stronger and might even notice that their body is leaner and fitter.

This can help tremendously especially with kids who are nearing their teenage years and might not have the best confidence through puberty. This can help with kids who have social anxiety feel confident enough to talk to other kids and make some friends.

Good Yoga Poses For Kids

There are a lot of different yoga poses you can have your kids try, from basic to advanced. Some good poses to start with are the Sun Salutations series, along with the child’s pose, tree pose, and warrior pose.

Many kids also excel when they do poses like headstands. Kids tend to be more flexible than adults, especially active kids, so you might find that your children learn the more advanced yoga poses very quickly.